Dating each other while separated
Tessina, a psychotherapist in Southern California and the author of 13 books on relationships, including Whether couples are staying together because they (consciously or unconsciously) are holding out for a reconciliation or because they feel they can’t afford to maintain their lifestyle on their own, they need to take some a few important things into consideration.
In many states, a couple needs to live apart physically for a certain period of time (often a year) before they can begin divorce proceedings.
I had a husband for 26 years who I lived with and had 4 children with.
He was wonderful but I couldn’t help but feel stifled in our relationship.
There are a number of reasons that people do this: Economically, one or both might not be capable of supporting himself, the divorce itself might be too expensive, or they might not be emotionally ready to formally and permanently split.While some try to keep the arrangement under wraps, plenty of others are straightforward about it.At work, the gym and the country club, men and women are spilling the news that although emotionally they’re residing in Splitsville, physically they’re still living under the same roof.People have always been astonished when I tell them about my living situation.No, I’m not homeless, and no, I don’t live in a share house. In fact, I’m happily married and have been for the last 11 years.
I was a stay at home mum and he worked at home too so we barely spent a moment apart in all the years we were married.